Farah Shaha
Having good looks can only get you so far in life. A characteristic way of thinking and acting, also known as personality. Personality always matters more than looks. Sure, you might catch other people’s attention and make a better first impression than others, but that tends to fade over time. A good personality the kind that draws people in and keeps them interested is the key to living a more successful life. How you carry yourself is beneficial not only in romantic relationships but in climbing the professional ladder as well.
Attraction Is More About Feelings
In relationships, what’s going to sustain it for years are the personalities of those involved, not the physical appearance. It’s why unlikely pairings exist. If the two have matching personalities, they’re bound to get along well together. Being attractive doesn’t always mean that one has to look like an international supermodel.
While, yes, a person’s physical appearance might be magnetic initially, what would ultimately keep up the relationship are the feelings. And those can come from anyone, regardless of their looks. A relationship whose foundation is based solely on physical attraction isn’t bound to last as long as one is based on genuine feelings for each other.
Looks Stop Being Important Over Tim
When we visit a country for the first time, the views arrest us. We gaze at how tall the buildings are and the colors of the streets.
We wonder what’s inside the stores we’ve never been to and what the food in the local restaurants might be. As we leave and return, the novelty of the trip begins to fade. What was so enchanting at first sight feels like commonplace now.
It’s the same with people too. When a new employee joins the team, our eyes are drawn to this new face. We look in wonder at who this person is. But as the days go on, we can barely remember what they wore yesterday. What does stick is our experience and the memories that we make with them.
Personality Makes Someone Interesting
Even though physical attractiveness can make a better first impression, it can’t hold up the conversation for long.
When someone is interesting enough, what they look like holds little importance. Being interesting can’t be faked.
Anyone can put on a vintage jacket or multi-colored shoes, but if they aren’t interesting, it can be hard to stick around them for too long before wanting to walk away to someone more engaging. It isn’t being mean; it’s a better use of time.
Looks Don’t Guarantee Chemistry
Relationships aren’t all about the physical activities that you do together. Sometimes, the most meaningful thing that can be done is to have an intimate and meaningful conversation.
There are usually people that you meet that you wouldn’t normally be attracted to, but your conversations together feel natural and not awkward at all.
Though they might have been on your radar before, having a nice conversation with them immediately separates them from the crowd.
Kindness Has Many Faces
Kindness is a universal virtue. Acting in the service of others and showing a kind spirit is something anyone should be capable of. That means that there are no physical requirements to being kind.
When someone is kind, they immediately seem more attractive. It means that they are caring, considerate, and trustworthy. Meaningful relationships rely on the respect and kindness of those involved.
So we’re naturally drawn to people that are kind and welcoming rather than those who are rude and disrespectful.
Confidence Can Overshadow Appearance
Confidence is one of the more important traits to have if you want to be successful. If you aren’t confident in your abilities, employers will be more than willing to move on to the next applicant. While getting a new haircut and getting a fashion makeover could make you feel better about yourself, ultimately, confidence can’t be bought; it needs to be learned and strengthened like any other skill. No amount of hair product can salvage a job interview without having self-confidence.
Getting To Know Someone Makes Them More Attractive
It’s like Beauty and the Beast. The humble villagers were repelled by the beast in the castle. They couldn’t believe how Belle could ever care for such a vile monster. But the beast was no vile monster after all.
Behind the sharp claws and the intimidating figure was someone who had a heart and felt the exact same range of emotions as we do. It’s called “the tale as old as time” for a reason. We see the same story in romantic movies, TV shows, and books, and the moral stays the same: there’s always more to someone than meets the eye.
Once you get to know someone, it can be difficult to see them as anything other than someone like yourself.
Healthy Relationships Share Values, Not Physical Features
They say that birds of a feather fly together; in the animal kingdom, the spots should be with spots, and the stripes should stick with them. While physical features may play an important role in forming relationships, it isn’t usually the deciding factor.
Anyone has the chance to be attracted to anyone as long as they share similar core values in life.
If two highly attractive people are in a long-term relationship, there’s usually a deeper reason beyond their physical features.
It’s a shared sense of understanding. It’s their personalities that draw them closer to each other. In such cases, opposites repel.
Passionate People Are More Attractive
When we see someone passionate about painting, they seem to emanate a glow that can’t be faked by buying the most expensive brushes and posting pictures. Their passion coats their physical features.
When someone talks to you about something they’re deeply passionate about, whether it’s books, stationary, 18th-century architecture, or hotdogs, there’s always going to be that twinkle in their eyes.
When we’re around passionate people, enthusiastically sharing the intricate details of the thing that their heart follows, it can be contagious. We feel inspired. How can we not? If they can find what they’re passionate about, so can we.
